Adulting and all #11
What's with all the brain fog? Why is there this innate urge to complete all goals before I am 30? Wait, what happens after 30?
Helluuuu all! How is everyone doing? I am very grateful that even though I am not consistently putting out the issues for Adulting and All, I am still gaining subscribers.
Writing after this long feels like - I disappeared from the planet for a few months into some other dimension and I have so much to share with everyone.
I think past few months have been a little hard especially before 2024, as I had lost the motivation to work although I had so much to do. December was the worst, as I was just mechanically working and definitely forgetting the tasks that I wanted to get done.
This phase for me was - “Oh my God, brain fog is real and it’s hitting me already at such young age”. Honestly I should have realized it was the effect of an official burnout happening to me.
Burnout seems like an exaggeration Bilwa…
Oh by the way a huge disclaimer - I am not a mental health expert nor I seek help to give advice, just here to share my experience with you.
Yes I know, it seems like an exaggeration but it happened. Mostly I wasn’t satisfied with my work and few of personal growth related things. And I realised that even good overwhelming changes can make you a little burnt out if you don’t process them well.
Hence going through the end of 2023, my brain.exe decided to work super slowly.
I went with the first one if anyone is wondering “Give Up and Rest”. Honestly speaking I am glad I had an actual burnout, now I know what a real burnout feels like and what needs to be done to uplift my motivation, mood, and alertness.
Few of the things I did while going through brain fog was:
Literally note the smallest of small tasks for the daily job, as I never knew what I was going to miss out or overlook on.
Stopped putting the pressure of having super - productive days
Made sure to eat well and binge on favourite series.
Most importantly, made sleep my first priority ( and it always will be)
These are some things I did and it very well helped me, but everyone’s coping mechanism is different so don’t really take MY advice. Find out what works well for you and keep doing/upgrading it.
Stop putting so much pressure on self… Eh no I prefer meltdowns
Goodness this newsletter is turning into Mental health daily, but this section is just a reminder to self.
Last year I had way too many goals to get done with by end of 2023, guess what very few of them got done. Some got added halfway through the year and completed itself too within the time frame! What did I learn from this?
My perfectionist self said - “need to work harder next time and achieve everything by 2024”. But the sensible one said - “ make lesser and realistic goals and make them happen”.
So I decided not to have big delulu dreams for 2024. This very much aligned with the book I am reading these days (“Same as ever" by Morgan Housel) that “plan like a pessimist but dream like an optimist”. Sometimes overwhelming yourself with lot of optimistic dreams lead to inaction and analysis paralysis, hence the move.
Skip to the good part? Hell yes.
Started living alone
This is like a dream come true. Was hoping to live by myself since I moved to Pune and finally convinced my parents for the same! I like being with myself more I guess.
Took an awesome trip to Jaipur
Loved all the places around Jaipur. Did lots of shopping, looked at beautiful sunsets, and had the best pyaaz kachori at some spots. Also I am pretty confident that I got aesthetic pictures for my Instagram feed.
Photoshoot? Nah! Watched sunset at Mulshi (bike ride)
Ended up visiting the most unexpected place in Mulshi which had a cute and beautiful surprise for us (the sunset point ofcourse). The weather was pleasant too hence the whole ride was to Mulshi was wholesome.
not the best pic, but focus on the view! Went for golf once again -It's so FUNNN!
I can say very confidently that I have improved in hitting the ball to around 50-70 yards. Not going to lie, It is weirdly satisfying to play golf.
Rage max :D
A promise to be made…
Disclaimer: Promises are made to be broken.
Kidding about the disclaimer by the way. I am kind of planning on releasing audio podcasts along with the newsletters this year. So if someone doesn’t like reading, they probably have to hear it in terrible recorded voice! But seriously I am planning on doing this. Let me know if you all would like something of this sort…
And as usual, I want to be more consistent with writing the newsletters. Thanks to all of you who are patient enough to wait on my newsletter issues (sending virtual flowers).
If you have read the newsletter till the end - you guys are really amazing and sending love to you all. And if you honestly liked this issue, please subscribe for more and share it with your friends!