Adulting and all #2
If you think this newsletter is going to help you be a better adult, you are wrong! But maybe after reading this, you won't take the wrong steps I guess :)
Hello to my amazing subscribers! No seriously, major respect for you people to sign up for some random newsletter with no solid purpose (just like my life **laughs with pain**)
I have been struggling majorly with the whirlpool of thoughts in my head, they go something like this: work, writing ideas, podcast ideas, learning more tech, reading books, keeping in touch with friends, caring about people around, earning more money, traveling to incredible places, maybe settle for a fancy house, learning a new musical instrument, buying better clothes, need to invest & save more, Morgan Housel… Yes, it’s never-ending!!! (yeah, don’t mind me overusing the exclamation marks… grammar nazi huh)
Point of sharing this? No clue. How to get out of this whirlpool?
(DISCLAIMER: No this is not any expert advice, it’s just me blabbering my solutions)
Checking your bank balance will settle half of the thoughts (Sorry, had no intention of being brutal and all)
Write all the thoughts down (maybe gibberish, no one is going to read them)
Cut off the BS shopping list (add to cart and leave it for a week is what helps me)
Those travel plans you have, meticulously plan them according to the budget and start executing them (Will never stop anyone from having random travel experiences)
Learn how to assign priority and weightage to the ideas/thoughts (how? make more dumb decisions, see the outcome and probably regret it)
Big purchases like car and home can wait until you plan on settling in one city (I guess)
The most important step is to ACT on whatever you decide with the task list (Else be ready with a tissue box to cry, in the coming month, especially if you are the workaholic kind).
Honestly, I won’t stay this is a power-packed method of dealing with the overthinking you do, but this is what has helped me and I am still figuring the rest out!
A peek into my life? Highlights of February!
So still settling in Pune, made some really close friends, which led to of course more hangout plans. Not just random plans but making parathas at home, going shopping during the day, and then going on bike rides for the full night plans (Yes, I blame all of these people for ruining my sleep cycle forever)
Not that I regret any of this… My nice cooped-up introvert ass finds it hard to actually be ready for any of such situations (even while going to a pub), so February was all about pushing the limits.
First off I had gotten some really great guests for my podcast and I was SOO underconfident about my communication skills that I couldn’t keep calm during the recordings. (but hey finally it was all done and it actually turned out to be nice)
I also said yes to a very awesome trip to Varkala with my friends (mind you there were 14 people on the trip). Now the tricky part was to tell my parents about this and actually get a yes from them. Being the obedient and the nice kid, I hadn’t really taken this step which now I feel should have taken quite a while back. I did call them up and explained the whole itinerary in detail, the first reply was let us say bad enough to discourage me from going altogether. But I didn’t really cancel my plan, and just the day before leaving I got a YES for the trip (A feeling that is way better than getting a text back from your crush). Moral of the story? Your girl stayed strong, haha, and gained some confidence.
Oh, and work from the office started from 21st February, more social anxiety!! But my colleagues were kind enough to let me open up slowly, haha :) I just couldn’t do small talk and I had no clue why! But I eventually got accustomed to going to the office and wasn’t being so uptight and closed (took me 3 months I think to finally be able to talk without being hesitant)
Lots of stories along the trip but I can’t really openly share them here as there are many others involved. Let us just say that I got subscribed to a fair share of Ekta Kapoor’s serial in real life, and trust me going with it wasn’t easy for someone whose life 2 months back was just work, eat, sleep, repeat.
Random wisdom out of the month…
What I majorly understood from this month is that the major motivational quotes of PUSH YOUR LIMITS, GET OUT OF COMFORT ZONE, MAKE TRUE EFFORTS look great only on posters. In reality, it might take up a good chunk of effort, mental breakdowns, a good amount of wins, and lots of taunts from your peers to get through it. Stop glamorizing the efforts that you took for others(honestly, it just sounds mean), and do it for yourself (that hey I did my best when it came to this relationship). Making note of the things you do every day does help a lot (not me flexing I got a really cool planner for 2022). Tracking your expenses is again a really cool habit to have! Having good social skills is necessary regardless of what you do for a living, you get to hear more crazy stories and share some too!
Honestly, all of it seems worth it in the end (not just having a success story but in turn getting content out of it like I did, haha) ALSO I found the best t-shirt that I dedicate to my ex:
On this very funny note, let me end this issue of the newsletter. I am assuming you are in love with me if you made it till here (jk, you guys are AWESOMEEE!) Feel free to give feedback through the comments or drop a 💖 if you liked this one.
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